Archives for April 2013
Yesterday, on my birthday, I wanted to reflect on the things I have learned this year (and, let’s be honest, things I’m still learning all the time). Today, I decided to share it with you.
Here’s my list:
1.) Life is a process. I am in process.
2.) Be honest with yourself about everything. Dissect your thoughts.
3.) It’s ok to allow yourself moments to be still. Inspiration and clarity can be found here.
4.) Reading makes me a better writer, speller and conversationalist. It’s important to read about a variety of things, even books, articles and blogs that don’t necessarily correspond with my outlook. Be a sponge. Be open minded. Take it all in.
5.) Scott needs me, too.
6.) This country is remarkable and I’m happy we got to see it at a closer angle.
7.) Being perfect isn’t a thing. I will always make mistakes. I need to accept that.
8.) I need to use more sunscreen on my hands. I need to do my physical therapy exercises for my shoulders.
9.) If you think you totally grasp someone or something look them over again, then do it again. p.s. Nothing other people do is really about you. For realz.
10.) I don’t want to be famously successful like I thought I did, I just want to reach my creative potential.
I woke up last Friday morning not expecting anything out of the ordinary. I surfed in teeny tiny waves, tidied the house, responded to e-mails, paid the bills and made a ginormous mess in the backyard while painting a small picture of a sandpiper for my mom’s birthday present before heading to my parent’s house in the evening for happy hour. Happy hour is a rather sacred hour of the day in my family, I guess you could say. When we are together on weekends and holidays and five o’clock rolls around we know exactly what to do and where to be with our beverage of choice in hand. We sit together and talk, often watching the sunset, always hoping to see the elusive green flash that only my mom has seen.
Kevin, my non-biological uncle came over, my mom opened a few small gifts and we sat talking. My friend Lisa, gave me the great idea of asking the birthday girl to mention her favorite memory from each decade of her life so far. For my mom, zero to ten was learning to ride a bike. Ten to twenty was sneaking out of her house as a teenager and meeting a girlfriend in the middle of the night to bike around the neighborhood in the Santa Ana winds. These stories made me happy we got my mom a new bike seat for her beach cruiser.
When I got up to go to the bathroom at one point, Scott seemed extra-inquisitive about my whereabouts (what the heckkk man, I have to pee!). A few minutes after I returned it was clear why- a surprise he had helped plan was on its way to our backyard all the way from NYC. Once I sat back down, she came running into the yard. Danielle. My little sister. My middle sister. And when I hugged her I had an odd flashback of me kissing her soft baby-haired head. I swear I could smell the way that little scalp used to smell and feel when I would kiss it (careful to stay away from that creepy soft spot).
When she first came into my life, I’m not so sure she was what I wanted. At three years old I was used to being the center of attention and I liked it that way, as you do at three. But now, as an adult, she is what I’ve always wanted. Along with my other sister Maddie, she is one of the best gifts I’ve ever received and here she was as a gift again.
We played with my dad’s remote control helicopter, which I crashed into a palm tree almost immediately, chopping some of the leaves with its tiny blades, celebrated my Mom, who can’t be celebrated enough, and surfed together. I’m so happy Danielle’s here all week.
The best gifts are the people in our lives.
We had a great weekend with a special surprise visitor. You may know this already if you follow me on Instagram, but I can’t wait to fill you in. Fortunately, it was really warm the past few days. It can be kind of a toss up here along the coast as we move towards the arrival of a persistent marine layer and the renaming of the early summer months from May and June to “May Grey” and “June Gloom”. We were thankful to the Earth for the sun. I hope I always remember to be thankful for
little things like that. Sun on my back, on my belly button, turning my hair yellow, and the way it makes me feel six years old.
Earth Day also happens to be my mom’s birthday. Isn’t that awesome? Mine’s the 25th and, although I love that day and all the ways it has spoiled me, I guess it would be nice to feel like the Earth and I had something in common. Maybe it would feel like a sign or something. Like the Earth and I were meant to share this day because we are connected and I was meant to love it. Well, I do love it regardless of dates, but I love my mom most. I know everyone says this, but my mom is special. She is so very special to me. I actually told her at her birthday dinner Saturday night, after a few drinks no doubt, “You are such a special lady”. “A lady?!” she mocked. “A special lady?” she repeated through hysterical laughter. “That’s something you say to your cashier at the grocery store or someone you don’t know very well”. We all laughed for a good four minutes about how my mom didn’t want to be called a lady. Well, I guess what I meant is this: She isn’t like anyone else I’ve ever seen or met and I wouldn’t love my life the same way I do if I didn’t know her. I wouldn’t know myself the way I do if she wasn’t my mom. I wouldn’t laugh as often without her. She is special to me. So very special.
I can’t wait to tell you about the rest of the weekend, but until then, happy Earth Day!
Here are a few Earth-minded links to check out:
I’m stoked to be over on Roxy’s Blog today with some Earth Day exercises. Stoked is kind of an understatement, but, ya know, I gotta keep my cool around here 😉
Earth Day Exercises
I like to celebrate Earth Day by exercising in nature and caring for the earth the way I feel it’s taken care of me. Running sprints on the beach while picking up trash makes me feel like I’m helping seagulls and sandpipers have a cleaner, safer home. It’s not their fault there’s a hair clip and a lobster trap line on their dinner table.
Here’s an Earth minded workout routine:
Start by picking two trashcans on the beach that are at least 100 yards apart from one another.
I worry I don’t have the right words to say when tragedies like the one in Boston distort our lives. All I have is pictures of good things and prayers.
At first, it was weird to me that people were still jogging, swimming, talking, but I guess I am, too. I guess that’s what we need to do so that evil doesn’t prevail. We are supposed to move on, but we are also supposed to remember. I will try to remember anyone who has lost their life because of some unforeseen tragedy as I go through mine seeing the things I do: the sunset, blooming flowers, different waves, smiles. Who’s to say, maybe those who have passed are watching me enjoy these things now. I feel like they are, the way God does. I don’t have the right words, but I have my prayers and maybe they will hear them.
Did you hear that Mr. Roger’s quote floating around the Internet? There were many quotes out there. Everyone is trying to make sense of this, find the good words, say something to help us all keep going and continue our enthusiasm for humanity. The Mr. Roger’s quote stuck with me most. In case you missed it, here it is “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'”-Fred Rogers. Thank you helpers! I want to be one of you.
I wanna know what happens. Is he going to end up liking these foods after eating them over and over again? Can that happen? I like to think I’m not a picky eater (I choose not to eat meat), but could I learn to like milk? Jicama? Radishes? Could I become a more adventurous eater if I continuously exposed myself to the foods I typically shy away from? I never used to like beets until I had them a few times, cooked different ways. It’s definitely an interesting topic.
1. coconut bites
2. bocce ball
3. tree star
4. fat tire refreshment
6. the sunset
Hey guys, I know it’s been kind of a while since I posted any surf tips. Sorry about that (that is, if you missed them)! As summer approaches and more people head to the beach, I plan to update that section of my site more often. Alright, so here are my tips for paddling.
Paddling is one of the most important aspects of your surf technique. Many people (even really strong dudes) don’t have the proper technique and miss some great wave riding opportunities because of it. Commit yourself to forming a proper paddle and you’ll get more waves and have more fun out in the lineup for the rest of your life!
1. When you are laying on your board the nose should be a few inches out of the water. If your nose of your shortboard is more than approximately 2-3 inches out of the water than you are too far back and wasting your paddle power. On the other hand, you don’t want the nose of your board to dip into the water either. If your nose is in the water, you are too far up.
2. The stringer of your board is the center. Always lay with the stringer running down the center of your chest and body.
3. Keep your knees and legs together. I can spot a beginner a mile away because they are usually paddling around with their legs apart. Don’t make the same mistake! It slows you down!
4. Lift your chest, neck and face away from the board when paddling. This will help you see where you are going, spot oncoming waves, keep the nose out of the water and will help you gain speed while paddling.
5. Make nice, even, alternating strokes. Reach out beside the nose of your board, drive your arm through the water and have it exit the water next to your legs. Always keep your fingers together!
6. To change direction lean slightly on the side of your board you want to go towards.
7. Kicking can help when trying to catch a wave, but rely mostly on your arms.
8. When you are really trying to get into a wave that is hard to catch, scoot up a tad, speed up your paddle and put your chin close to the deck. Most importantly, don’t give up!
9. When your hands begin to paddle on the face of the wave and you feel your board is being moved by the wave this is the time to stand up. If you’re up before this happens, chances are, you’re going to miss it!
10. If there’s an approaching open peak down the beach, go for it! Even if you don’t catch the wave you are practicing your paddle and adapting the mindset of a waterwoman (or man).